Things with Little Red are going pretty well.
For those of you who haven't read this yet, I somehow lost most of the content of this post (for which there will be strong repercussions, just as soon as I figure out how to punish the internet), leaving me with a single sentence of the original, so I'll have to give you the short version: Little Red and I are currently in a mostly physical relationship, although there are emotional attachments involved. She's slowly getting over her ex. She still doesn't want to call things official, but I think she's warming up to the idea.
This seems bad if you've turned to the "friends with benefits" route. If you really care about someone, you don't mess with their feelings - which is what happens when someone says you're great and wonderful and an okay guy for "benefits" but not for a "real" relationship. I've just seen too many guys get pushed and pulled around when all the girl really wants out of it is an ego boost. By the end of this she may have healed from her bad past relationship, but you may end up more broken. Like I said, this seems bad, but no one can make these decisions for you. With all sincerity, best of luck to you.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Amy.
DeleteNormally I would agree with this, but Little Red has told me that this sort of thing is exactly what she wants to avoid, emotionally speaking. We've been trying hard to be careful and honest with each other, and that's why I think this all has a chance to work out in the end. I think she wants a real relationship, but she's not emotionally ready for it quite yet, so I'm okay with the way things are for now.
Hi, Dave.
DeleteI'm glad you didn't think my comment was too harsh. I was kind of worried about that after I typed it. Your reasons for a friends with benefits situation seem very logical and well thought out. It's just that when love and strong emotions get involved that things become irrational and get out of hand quite quickly. I hope that you can avoid this, but it seems very difficult from what I've seen. Just don't be afraid to end it if you become confused or unhappy. Best of luck to you.
Even having read your latest post, I still think you did the right thing. It may not have ended ideally, but you still had the learning experience and the happiness that came from spending time with her. Your motives were pure, and above all else, I believe that she knows that.
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