Tuesday, November 13, 2012

The Girl Who Wouldn't Smile

I'm sure some of you have been patiently waiting for the next chapter of my story with Hat Girl.  It's my sad duty to inform you that this is most likely the end of the story.
There are a few small things that I've failed to mention about Hat Girl, so I think I'll start there.  First, her facial expression seldom changes.  It's an incredibly rare thing to see her smile.  I think this may have to do with her past, but I can't really explain any further than that.  Another thing about Hat Girl is that she's a country girl at heart.  Being more of an indoorsy guy who lives pretty much in the center of downtown, it doesn't match up so well.
A few days ago, we went out and saw Skyfall.  It was a pretty good movie, although I didn't find it quite as mind-blowing as some thought it was.  Of course, I've never been a huge fan of Daniel Craig, but I did come away with a better appreciation of how he plays Bond.  Hat Girl had never seen a Bond movie, so I was glad to allow her the chance to experience that.  Unfortunately, she didn't think much of it.  She didn't full-out hate it, but it really wasn't to her tastes.
After the movie, we got together for dinner, and while we were waiting for our food to arrive, she dropped the bomb.  She said it was better for us to be friends, and nothing more.  Her reasons were sensible, so I agreed, but the rest of the meal was slightly awkward for me.  To her credit, she insisted on paying for dinner, which I was prepared to do.  We parted ways amiably enough, although I would have preferred a proper hug, rather than the awkward half-hug with her already seated in her car.
It was a long walk home for me, and the sadness crept into my head like an unwanted house guest returning on some pretense or other.  I knew logically that there were a lot of good reasons that things probably wouldn't have worked out for us, but all I could focus on at the time was that feeling of being unwanted and alone.  It sucked, just like it always does.
I'm slowly getting over things.  In a way, I'm glad it happened as quickly as it did, because there's a lot less pain to deal with.  I think Hat Girl and I will still be friends.  She did indicate that there would be a next time, even if it wasn't as a couple.  It was nice of her, and I appreciate the thought.  The hard part is dealing with the emotional stuff.  I'm not entirely sure she's aware of the effect it had on me, but that would be too hard to explain to her.  I've been tempted to contact Little Red again.  This incident has made me miss her a lot, thinking of how she would have responded to me differently, or remembering times we'd shared together.  I want to talk to her again, but I know that I can't do that, and it tears me up a bit knowing that.  I'd hate to try to offer her friendship again only to be reminded of my bad decisions and feel worse about my situation.  The whole thing sucks, but I suppose I'll have to learn to live with it until things change, or I forget about her.
In spite of all this, all is not lost.  There are some small things happening that could develop into more in the future.  Hopefully, I'll have more news for you soon.  

1 comment:

  1. Sorry to hear the news but I'm sure you'll look back at this and know it was something that had to happen to have got you to where you need to go. Stay strong, keep the faith!

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