Emotionally speaking, I haven't been doing all that well lately. It's nothing specific, but over the past week or so, I've just been feeling a crushing sort of loneliness. Ghosts of the past have been returning to taunt me more than ever. I find myself thinking of the girl who kissed me more and more, and there have even been trace elements of Alex and Three Point One in the air. This has all led me to consider doing something that I hadn't really considered a good idea before.
Some time before I entered into the world of online dating, I read an article about a site called The Ugly Bug Ball. This site is designed with the more average, or even ugly people in mind. To me, this approach seems to be predicated on the idea of settling. This is an idea most people (myself included) don't like, and it makes me wonder how this whole thing is supposed to work. First of all, anyone who joins this site is already admitting to being 'ugly'. I'm not superficial by any means, but chances are if there's no physical attraction for me, I would have very little interest in dating that person.
Another worrisome thought is that some members could have major self-image issues, which goes hand in hand with low confidence, and all sorts of other damaged thought patterns. While these ideas are a little distressing, the scientist in me is curious about how interactions work on this site as opposed to the typical dating site. It also makes me wonder if joining would improve my own dating chances. I don't want to settle, but the big fish in a small pond idea is an appealing one, especially for someone with a track record like mine. There is a very real possibility that rejection chances are far lower here than on other dating sites. Again, for someone like me, this build their case quite well.
I haven't made a concrete decision on this yet. Seeing as I'm not quite logical lately, I'm going to try to wait a while before investigating further. I don't know what I'm going to do, but this is definitely an option that I am considering.
Dave, Dave, Dave. I'm not one for intervening on the behalf of others and stopping their behavior, but if I had the pleasure of knowing you in real life I would grab you by the shoulders and give you a good shake. This Ugly Bug Ball? I understand your academic curiosity, but that site isn't for you. Not at all. Confidence, man, confidence! Women love it. And never settle for less. You deserve so much more than that...and if you tell yourself this, let it manifest, live it, breathe it, believe it...you will make great things happen. You're a good-looking guy (no homo) and you have a lot to offer emotionally to whichever woman is lucky enough to spend her time with you.
ReplyDeleteNever settle. Ever. Chin up. I feel like you and I can understand each other more than many others - hopeless romantics who live with the ghosts of our past - but good things are coming for both of us. Believe it.
~Shane
Have to agree with Shane above. Never settle. Power through the emotional wall you're up against!
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot, gents. It is heartening to know that I've got a few bros looking out for me here.
ReplyDeleteI'm feeling slightly better than I was, and I've decided to stay far away from this site.
And Shane, just because I like you and you're helping me out here, I'm going to ignore that 'no homo' nonsense...this time.
Haha, that site was hilarious... did you read the '5 truths about dating' on the front page? I couldn't tell if it was designed to entice people to join, or it was a sly insult at their existing members lol.
ReplyDeleteAnyways yes I agree with Tom and Shane. Just forget the whole dating thing for a while. Stay off your computer and take up some hobbies instead, even play some sport or some exercise.
You'll never going to get out of an emotion rut if you are cooped up trolling the internet =)
I agree with Out of Sync - The Ugly Bug Ball kind of cracked me up! It seems to be designed for people who just want whatever they can get. Don't settle. As one of your female readers, I can tell you that you are a good-looking guy. (In fact, I once dated a guy who looked very similar to you.) Confidence really is key when it comes to girls, even if you have to fake it.
ReplyDelete@Melissa - Thank you very much for your nice comment! It's things like this that keep me going, and it's always good to know that there are ladies out there looking for someone like me.
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