As a rule, I've generally been against the idea of 'the list', but I made a list of my own some months ago. In the interest of keeping positive and maintaining standards, I have now decided to share this with you all. I'm arbitrarily numbering these things, but I'm sort of listing qualities in bunches anyway. The point is, these are all important.
1. I'm not all that picky when it comes to looks, but here are a few small things I would appreciate in a future girlfriend: a cute face, pretty eyes (particularly if coupled with glasses), and if possible, a nice bum. Aside from that, I will be happy with almost all shapes and sizes. That being said, I would like to add a few exceptions to that statement. I don't want to date anyone who is grotesquely obese or skinnier than me (if you must know, I'm about 120 soaking wet, and probably always will be).
2. I would like to have someone who has faith in my writing career. Having someone to inspire me when I feel creatively tapped out would be a great thing to have. In addition, I'd like someone with a healthy curiosity about things, and a willingness to learn and discover new things.
3. While we're on the subject of faith, I'd like to be with someone who has similar views on religion. I consider myself a tolerant person, but I think it would have to be this way for anything to work in the long term.
4. After my experience with Number Three, I realized I want someone who is not only understanding of me emotionally, but also considerate of those feelings. Getting stomped on emotionally is something I don't intend to happen again, if I can help it.
5. A smart, geeky girl with good taste in music and a similarly offbeat sense of humour would be awesome.
6. There are times I'm liable to slip up in dating, whether it's accidentally checking out someone else, or losing my temper. I'd like to be with someone who is forgiving and willing to look past the small flaws of mine to see the nice, loving guy I really am.
7. I think I have a certain need for physical things when it comes to relationships, so someone who enjoys cuddling, or hugs and kisses would be excellent.
So, that's about it. I'm not asking for too much, am I?
I'd say you are certainly asking for the right things. :)
ReplyDeleteBeing someone who writes as well, having someone who has faith in a writing career is key, especially when every one asks you "how else are you going to make money?" Ugh. --.--
-Barb
I could have written this entry, down to the very last word (except substitute "writing career" for "blogging career" and "120" with "220" haha). We look for very similar things in relationships. I also have a thing for smart, geeky girls with offbeat senses of humor. And girls who I can play video games with? Be still, my beating heart. When it comes to looks I'm not particularly picky, but I rule out morbidly obese and toothpick skinny. I'm not shallow, but I fully acknowledge that you need to have some physical attraction with someone to make a relationship work. It's just part of the chemistry. Otherwise, you're living a lie.
ReplyDeleteI don't think you're asking for too much at all. This is a very realistic list.
~Shane
You can't trust a big butt and a smile!
ReplyDeleteJust kidding, I have the song "Poison" in my head :)
A girl who plays video games. That's the dream.
ReplyDeleteI think lists are always a load of rubbish. You make them and then in two years time you're in a relationship, you find the list, and you laugh at what you thought you'd end up with.
ReplyDeleteLife is full of surprises!
I used to make a whole bunch of lists about the guys I wanted, but I always ended up dating someone different from the list, which probably explains why I end up in such bad relationships.
ReplyDeleteI don't think you are asking too much at all and I think it is a good idea to make a list, but keep in mind that sometimes what we want is much different from what what we subconsciously need in our lives . Besides if we get everything we want, well what's the fun in that? people always want more.
-Hanny
As I said in chat, I'm proud of you for writing this. :) It's a good step in the right direction.
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